One thing that I wasn’t at all prepared for before becoming a
mum of multiples was the interest that twins generate. Unfortunately it's not the type that increases your bank balance. All sorts of people are
drawn to twins– some will want to chat to you and some are happy to whisper or
point without any consideration of your privacy or feelings. Sometimes you
almost feel like a bit of a D-grade celebrity who has a reporter and paparazzi
ready to jump out and surprise you at any moment.
A quick trip to the shops for bread and milk is a distant
memory. These days I really cannot go anywhere without being stopped. The
former shy, introverted Peta would have rarely left the house with the twins in
fear of being bombarded and not being able to complete whatever she needed to
in peace. But, being approached by strangers on the daily kind of pushes you
outside of your comfort zone and this twin mama, and mum of three is now well
versed in conversations with strangers and happy for the most part to let people
ogle and admire, discuss twin science (because everyone is an expert) and talk-twins
to everyone and anyone.
While most people’s intentions are lovely and genuine, some
comments that multiples-mums get thrown are completely shocking and
unnecessary. I once had a woman who was shopping with her grandbaby see
the twins in the pram and exclaim ‘poor you, poor you’. She then trotted off
and turned around and said it again!
I saw this post a couple of years ago on Uncanny Annie's facebook page and it pretty much
sums up how us mamas of multiples sometimes feel.
I REALLY wanted to leave these signs on the pram today. As a twin mum, you get asked a series of questions/hear a series of statements EVERYTIME you go out. I know most people are coming from a great place and are just curious however many can be quite intrusive and after a while it's just plain exhausting. And since I was heading into the city, I knew the questions would be coming thick and fast... but I chickened out on the train and took them off! 😜
Don't get me wrong. Being a twin mama is so amazing and I never tire of being told how beautiful the girls are or how much of an amazing mum I must be. Anonymity would be nice occasionally though.
Are you fascinated by twins or multiples?
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